- Take up a group hobby or activity that you are not currently doing. For example, bowling or join a pottery making class.
- Ask a person out on a date that you are interested in. If he agrees to go out with you, then just enjoy the evening without any pressure and see how he interacts with you.
- Get several of your female friends together and host a party where each female must invite 1 or 2 or 3 or whatever number of males. Plan games and activities where everybody must interact with everyone else at some point.
- Try online dating.
- Resolve to do something within reason that you would not normally do. For example, many women will never ask a guy for his number first.
- At church, challenge yourself to speak to at least one new male each Sunday and see how long you can keep the conversation going. You are not necessarily trying to date each person you talk to, but you are developing the habit of conversing with different men and feeling comfortable doing so.
- Write down 5 things you would like to improve about yourself and draw up a plan to achieve those 5 things.
These are some ideas, but there are a gazillion more! The point is to think outside the box when it comes to finding your soul mate. Some things will work for you and some will not. Do not let your fear of rejection or of being hurt deter you from your ultimate goal. Take the time to write down as many ideas on how to meet men (not necessarily to date them) and eventually, one of them may be just right for you.
Yes, you should pray to God to help you find a mate, but many of you will be surprised to find out that “You Already Have…” what you need to make that dream a reality in your life. God has answered your prayer; you just have to be CREATIVE enough to recognize it!
2 comments:
Mr. Writer,
Thanks for the wonderful ideals and suggestions on finding a mate or friend.
What if you have thrown all types of hints and he does not receive any of them? Should I just give up or just accept the terms of a virtual wall friendship?...I have given him my number and drop sudden hints that we should get to know each other beyond these virtual walls.
To be honest, I just want to get to know him because I find the things he said through his writing somewhat healing, interesting and at times I find him too good to true or real. When I tell you I am not sure I would know how to be other than a friend to him because he wows me a little too much with his Godly words and suggestions….these are just words from His (God) mouth.
I finally have narrowed it down to He does not return my emails, and has not call so he has no interest in know me at all beyond these virtual walls. It has been quite a while that anyone would even peek my interest. Relationships with males come easy for me but only as a friend and sister in Christ. The bible said, “When a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing...” so I am definitely letting Him do the findings of my soul mate…
I am going to do as you suggest for finding “good conversion” and “just someone to hangout with” be creative in my finding and write down an action plan for improving me and work on it so I will be ready when my “Boaz” appears…to be honest I am just a little tried of doing with the “girl”….no offense ladies (smile).
In response to your week in review, those are great suggestions to getting out to meet people in general.
1.If I meet a guy in a pottery class, my "gay"dar would go off. I would have to keep an eye on him trying to get the same thing I am after.
2. I like hanging with the girls, but again, most of them are looking for the same thing I am looking for. As for the party theme, them bringing a male or two, is this an old boyfriend where things didn't work out for them or what?
3. Online dating is really not real. You don't know what is on the other end.
4. At church, you see the same people each Sunday. Maybe it's time to go and visit some other churches.
As for praying and asking God for that mate. I agree with you on that. But the key is will I be willing to accept what God sends?
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