These are interesting facts that perhaps raise eyebrows, cause a few chuckles and provide fodder for water cooler discussions at work. But are their spiritual considerations for Christian singles to ponder?
- Men, maybe we are not “manning up” when it comes to sex and relationships. How is this statement “spiritual”? It is spiritual because God created men and women to desire each other and to develop powerful relationships that out rank other aspects of life. If we men are not making ourselves worthwhile to our women (not just through sex, mind you), then we are not living up to what God has called us to do.
- Women, maybe you have your priorities in the wrong order. If you would rather have clothes than a good man, then maybe you have allowed your past negative experiences to steer you away from what God designed you to be. Or you have given in to the flawed conventional wisdom that says men are not worth the trouble of bonding with.
Christianity is a religion based on relationships: humans to God and humans to humans. Part of the human-to-human interaction is the romantic linkage between males and females. It is the will of God that men and women desire and cling to each other more intensely than we hold onto anything else. Can you imagine God’s disappointment if Eve would have preferred a closet full of the latest fig leaf attire over the companionship of Adam? God would be no less disappointed if we do not value each other over material things.
Come on Christian singles, God made us better than that!
2 comments:
Good Topic.
After being in a serious relationship for over let's say 20 years and the man you thought you knew, you really didn't. Or the signs were there and you chose to ignore them and the relationship failed. Now you are fifty, yes I said fifty years old and now what. I am too old to play games. I know what I want. A good man, who is a strong believer and follower of God, who has a job and don't live at home with his mother. I don't want no one who just wants to tap it every know and then. I want to enjoy the rest of my life on this earth doing God's will and doing it (the will) with that mate (man). We have too many men out here who want to play games and see how many they can hit up with or they are not serious about God.
Sometimes you feel like instead of going through the hassle of getting involved with another "playa", I'll take to new clothes. I'm alone, but I look good. : )
Mr. Writer,
Awesome topic!
I am so grateful that I am not a average woman and a statistic in this poll...and for the record I found these facts interesting and yes I chuckled…
If I remember correctly how good and satisfying sex is depended on my emotions toward the man…I can’t ever remember asking my mate for some clothes exchange for sex …because I can buy the clothes but, without God I can not fill the void or replace the emptiness that SEX can provide without the emotional attachment…If I was to take this survey I am sure my results would say loud and clear “give me the man and not just any man but the right man (the cuddling and the loving)”; don’t get me wrong I love a nice outfit but only to entice that special one...clothes could never be exchanged for my treasures. How could any woman choose material and thread in exchange for SEX.
I think I tend to buy clothes out of loneliness to pacific my desire to have a mate but no one could never offer me clothes in place of sex…I believe the polls are correct when referring to women find it easier to be committed to clothes than a relationship because clothes don’t talk back, clothes can’t decide the next day they don’t want to be worn. You may gain a pound here and there but clothes can’t tell you, they may show you though but they are still around hanging in your closet. Clothes are not able to tell you they are tried of being in your closet and walk away…on the other hand a man can be sorry in bed but have the choice to decide they only want to be in a physical relationship ---so they exit and leave, and trade you for a smaller, younger, prettier model who is willing to agree to the sexual terms.
I have been celibate for over 10 years; I loved a man I never touched or seen for four years…and I never missed that part of that relationship; in many ways we were closer. I was never really clear how I felt about “having sex” as a Christian before marriage until I read this book “God of Our Single Years, Chapter 7 and Chapter 8”…and now I know how I should be dealing with SEX according to the word. Thank God, I am dealing with my flesh through Christ…so rather a man is good at sex is not one of my qualification for a mate and sex is not important to me alone. The King which I marry will be all that and more. We will enjoy each other to the fullest and the way Christ intended it to be because my mate will love God which will allow him to love me unconditionally …and as we discussed last week we are children of the king, full of wisdom and creative.
Woman! You’re A Kingmaker!
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