More To It?

If you live long enough, you either have encountered or will experience moments when you will wonder if your current state of singleness is all there is to being single. As good or bad as your journey of singleness has been, it is normal to question if this is as good (or bad) as it gets.

No matter how pious we claim to be, we often fall victim to not being able to see our future as clearly as God sees it. Granted, He has the advantage of experience that infinity will bring and true, He also has the advantage of experience that comes from having seen it all before. But for us, our sight is limited to our own fears and egos. It is because of our fears and egos that we sometimes forget to borrow God’s eyeglasses so we can see beyond our human vulnerabilities.

Is there more to our singleness or is this it? Part of the answer lies in the quality of our relationship to God. In fact, that is where the whole answer lies. The extent to which we genuinely seek to discern God’s will and purpose is the extent to which we will see the “more” of our singleness. That is the spirit behind the hymn with the words, “We will understand it better by and by.”

So as you deal with moments of loneliness or self-doubt or you are trying to recover from a broken heart or guilt for some bad decisions from your past or you dread those family reunions because you will smacked upside the head with “why are you still single” questions; don’t get too stressed. No those things aren’t going to go away quietly and you will have to serve your time in the valley of uncertainty, but just keep the faith that the story does not end there.

I am not here to delude you with false promises of a happily ever after, although that is what I pray for on your behalf. But, I am here to declare that however good (or bad) your singleness is at this moment, there is more to it. In the final analysis, it does not matter what I “declare” about your singleness. It is more important to understand where you are in your relationship with God. For it is in that relationship that you will find clarity and discover a sense of peace about whether or not this is all there is to your singleness.