This Week In Review Saturday 2/17/07

On Sunday, I discussed how we sometimes have sex before we ask the questions that need to be addressed. When we do that, we open ourselves up to problems that we could have avoided. On Monday, my post was about how most of us desire for someone to know us intimately in every sense of the word, but we are not always spiritually prepared to exhibit fidelity, commitment and discipline to position ourselves for God to bless us beyond our expectations. On Wednesday, the topic was about the circumstances when being driven to distraction can be a good thing that may also lead to realization of meeting our soul mate. On Thursday, I posed some questions about why people have sex and ended that session with a prayer that all of us would grow in our understanding of how God would like for us to view this aspect of our makeup.

Below are some questions from comments you left this past week. Check out my responses.

“Can you have sex with your ‘friend’ and remain friends?” What we need to understand is that when we have sex outside of marriage, we are harming our partner and ourselves. If we truly loved our “friend” as God desires that we do, we would not bring harm to them. So the question should not be about remaining friends, but about what is God’s will AND what will not hurt us.

“Perhaps I sound a little bitter, but can we drop the ‘Valentine's Day’ Stuff?" As Christian singles that believe that God will answer our prayers for true romance, why would we NOT want to talk about Valentine’s Day?

“Okay, you really want to talk about sex?” It is my opinion that sex is the biggest challenge that Christian singles face. So many of us suffer or are currently struggling because of decisions we make concerning our sexuality. It is imperative that we discuss sex since it holds so much potential to harm us.

“Be honest, would you really go out with a woman who asked you out on a date? Has a woman ever asked you out and if so, what was the outcome?” Yes, if a woman asked me out and I thought our date was going to be interesting, I would go out with her. Yes, I have had women to ask me out. The outcomes have varied, but for me, dating is about getting and receiving information. So, any date is a potential learning experience.
In this day and time, men need to be open to women asking them out and women need to be open to making the first move in terms of asking for his number or asking him out. I cannot speak for other men, but I do not think any less of a woman who takes the initiative to get to know me and I do not make any prejudgments about them either. One of my objectives is to meet my soul mate; it does not matter to me who asks who first.