It's Not About You!

I know, I know. You are not one of “those singles” who are weak and wimpy. Somehow, you have managed to avoid those periods of depression or frustration that other singles sometimes experience. I thank God that you have mastered what it takes to be single. How great would it be if we could be just like you?

This posting is not about you. While you have managed to rise above the challenges that other singles face, there are so many others who every now and then:

• Feel so alone because they have no romantic partner
• Feel isolated because they have few TRUE platonic friends
• Feel depressed because the holidays are approaching and they do not have anyone to share them with
• Feel frustrated because they promised themselves that this year they would find true love and that promise has not come true
• Feel angry because no one seems to have the answers to the problems they face
• Feel confused because they seem to be doing everything the right way, yet things still keep turning out wrong
• Feel anxious because the attainment of their dreams seems to be slipping away
  
  

That is why this is not about you. Many of us do not have your strength and confidence. Sometimes we are up and sometimes we are down. We have good days and bad days. There are days when we are the baddest singles out there and there are other days when singleness whips our butts. Out of this mixture of victories and defeats, we are at least learning about the God we serve and our faith in Him grows each time He allows us to make it through. God’s word is true that His grace is sufficient in the midst of our struggles with our “thorns in the flesh”. Because we struggle, we are becoming more familiar with God’s delivering power. In essence, our singleness is more about Him than it us about us because He is the positive difference in our lives.

Because you have this singleness thing figured out, you have nothing to teach us. In your eyes, your singleness is so perfect that look you look down on us as weak and desperate. Now that we think about, thank God that this is not about you.