Serve Me - DO MORE, Part IV

Why are so many of our relationships full of bitterness, frustration, anger, confusion or pain? The short answer is our pride! Our pride keeps us from:

• Making that call
• Saying we are sorry
• Opening our hearts
• Returning that call
• Telling someone that we love them
• Sending that email
• Buying that gift
• Taking that person out to dinner
• Asking that person for his or her number

It is a shame that we allow our egos to keep us from the many good things that life has to offer. Too many of us place a higher value on our egos than we do on our happiness. What a downright dirty shame!

Service is one of those things that most of us refuse to do. We view service as a sign of weakness or as something that makes us look stupid. What most of us do not realize is that service is an accurate barometer of the Godly love we possess. There is a direct relationship between the amount of Godly love we have and the quality of our spirit of service. Put more simply, the more we love, the more we will serve others. This truism applies to all of our relationships.

So, if you want to DO MORE in your relationship with me, then you must serve me. Even as I write this, I feel “funny” because service tends to make both the server and the person being served feel uncomfortable. Why? Without going into detail, our discomfort with service is also about our pride. We want healthy relationships, but we want to preserve our egos more.

When you serve me, you are demonstrating your level of love for me. If you put more effort in telling me how you will NOT serve me, then you are showing me how shallow your love is. There is no getting around it, Christian singles should serve others more.

In our relationship, as you are serving me, I should be serving you. It is not about keeping score or only serving when being served. Service is something we should offer regardless of what the other person is doing. Healthy relationships are built on mutual service and we all have the right to redefine relationships that do not have this balance. Service is something that we should always offer, but the more intimate the relationship, the more intense the level of service.

So, to DO MORE in our relationships, we have to stop letting our egos mess things up. Aren’t we tired of being involved in interactions with people that leave us tired, frustrated, confused, hurt, embarrassed or angry? That ain’t nothing (apologies to all of my English teachers) but our pride! I pray that all of us will drop-kick pride out of our relationships and learn the blessed benefits of exhibiting a genuine spirit of service.