Good Singleness, Oh So Good!

In yesterday’s post (See “Bad Singleness, Bad, Bad, Bad” on 11/28/06), I listed some of the things that cause us to have bad days as singles. I ended that post by asking where is God while all of this bad stuff is going on?

Well, where is He?

God is where we are. Many of us are so warped by the pain or disappointment or guilt or shame or anger in our lives that we look for God in the thunder that we hope roars His presence. It is not surprising that we run after the thunder, because it is so impressive. That’s the kind of God we need and want, isn’t it? But God is not “out there” somewhere. Besides, thunder only happens every once in a while. Do we want a God who is here today and gone tomorrow? Thankfully, God is all up in our faces. (See “All Up In Their Faces” on November 27th). He is looking back at us when we see our reflection in the mirror.

So as we understand that God is where we are, we can draw upon His wisdom, His grace, His Sovereignty and His delivering power to help us deal with those dreaded bad days of singleness. God’s proximity to us should affect us in two ways:

1. By understanding that He is near and He is in charge, we can put our bad days in the proper perspective. If we listen to the whispers of God during those times, we may just learn a thing or two. It is always a good thing when we take proper advantage of growth opportunities.
2. When we can view our problems in the proper perspective, we can help others when they are having their bad days. Part of putting our bad days in their proper place is trusting God enough to handle them while we put our attention to helping other singles. Sometimes, the best way to uplift us is to focus on uplifting others.
   

Stop chasing the thunderclouds! God is right here tapping us on our shoulders. He has infused us with the ability to take our lemons and make some lemonade. So during those times of feeling depressed or lonely or ashamed or angry or horny or bitter or confused or victimized, step around the pits of conventional wisdom and the traps of our egos and reach for the sugar of God’s will.

Let the thunder roar and let the lightning flash! Don’t try to put God out there in the raging wind. In the safety and peacefulness of your inner thoughts, that is where He really can be found. When you truly understand that nugget of wisdom, your singleness can be good, oh so good!