The Last Person

As someone told me recently, “Being single is hard enough on its own without having to be subjected to a list of do’s and don’ts.” I am not here to argue against that point, but I do think we need to make sure we have the right perspective as we dialog on this subject.

Part of what makes singleness challenging is the reality that other people do not do what we want them to do when we want them to do it. To me, that betrays a selfish perspective. With a “me-me-me” focus, it is not difficult to encounter people who have a different view of things than ours.

Imagine how simpler and less stressful life would be if we learned to do as Jesus suggested and put the needs of others before our own? There would be less animosity and fighting if we loved our enemies instead of hating them. There would be less jealousy if we celebrated others' victories instead of coveting them. There would be less broken hearts if we truly loved our romantic partners instead of manipulated them. There would be less “bad stuff” if we dedicated ourselves to helping others instead of only focusing on our selfish agendas.

In short, we should be the last person we think about when we think about notions such as satisfaction and contentment. The ultimate and most genuine indicator of our trust in God is to put more emphasis on uplifting others than the attention we pay on getting our own needs fulfilled. Our steadfast faith tells us that God takes care of those who take care of others.

As a Christian single, do you really want to be happy and satisfied? Then make yourself the last person you show concern for. Trust me, this helping others stuff really works!