Have You Lost That Loving Feeling?

What happened that causes many of us to run away from love instead of rushing toward it? I wonder if we Christian singles have fallen for the myth of noble suffering. I guess we figure that since Jesus suffered, we must suffer. We have forgotten that Jesus’ suffering was for a divine purpose whereas our suffering is mostly self-inflicted and is not part of God’s intentions.

Losing that loving feeling is one example of how we heap suffering on our heads thinking that is God’s will for us. Nothing could be further from the truth. God does not want us to suffer. In fact, He has laid things out to make our lives easier, not full of stress and difficulties. Jesus’ suffering was by design; our suffering is the result of bad or ill-timed decisions on our part or on the part of others. But to put a noble so-called spiritual face on our struggles, we say we are single or without love or alone because that is how God wants it to be.

Wrong answer! We need to stop saying, “Yes, but…” when the statement is made that God wants us to fall in love. Why do we insist “God made me do it” when it comes to the things we implement that leads us away from being in love? Let’s begin setting the record straight by acknowledging the following facts:

• God created us as He wanted us to be
• He gave us the capacity to love Him and others
• Along with this capacity, He gave us the strong desire to love
• He did not make us as separate islands, but as living beings with an affinity to bond and form relationships

In short, God has laid things out and set things up so that we would fall in love and live happily ever after. Why would He go through all of this effort and then desire that we not fall in love?

Have you lost that loving feeling? Stop blindly following your foolish heart. Don’t just stop at the past negatives and pains in your life. Stop missing out on God’s plans for you by not seeing the forest for the trees. Love is there for you to have, but you must believe it. When we convince or trick ourselves into thinking that falling in love is not for us, that way of thinking becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Thank God that He has not lost that loving feeling. If He can hold on to it since the creation of time, why can’t we hold on to the notion of love as we travel the road of our singleness?