Becoming a Woman or Man With God In Your Eyes

One common mistake many people make when there is a discussion of the characteristics of a woman or man with God in their eyes is offering the counter argument that no one is fully where they should be. They suggest that we all have room to grow. I say that is a mistake because we need to take responsibility for where we are now and accept the fact that we should be moving in the direction towards our God ordained potential. By saying, “Yeah Kevin, but there are none or very few women or men who truly have God in their eyes”; we imply that looking for such a person is a waste of time.

Let’s not forget our respective gifts of “influence” (women) and “priesthood” (men). These gifts speak to the roles we can play in helping others as well as ourselves to grow spiritually. Secondly, let’s not get so caught up in our own hustle of finding a man or woman to link up romantically with that we ignore our spiritual responsibility to form positive relationships of all types. This second point is worth re-stating in a different way. Our sole objective should be about doing God’s will; not about finding a boyfriend or girlfriend. If we play our spiritual cards right, having a boyfriend or girlfriend will be one of the favorable outcomes of being obedient to God.

The best way to find a person with God in their eyes is to BE a person with God in your eyes!! When we focus on what is NOT out there; we often lose sight of the ways we are NOT growing spiritually. So stop whining about the rarity or non-existence of women or men with God in their eyes!!

How can you become a Woman or Man with God in your eyes?
Here’s the bad news; there is no formula. No two doses of this and a pinch of that and voila! Here’s the good news; God has a plan that is tailor-made just for you.

Here comes a “DUH” statement. If you want to be a person with God in your eyes; then go to God for the answers. It may seem obvious, but sometimes we get so distracted by our loneliness, our fears, our horniness or our anger that we stumble over the obvious. We often allow the fact that the holiday season is approaching or there goes another birthday and we still don’t have someone special to love us to keep us from looking to the ONLY ONE who can help us be the best we can be.

Finally, most of us speak a good game when it comes to our spiritual intentions. But when the light of reality exposes our true desires, it becomes apparent that we are just selling wolf tickets.

• We say God is the head of our lives, but we allow our fear of being alone to dictate our actions.
• We say that Jesus is our Lord and Savior, but we are more obedient to our desperation to find a mate than we are to Him.
• We claim to want spiritual growth, but we are more focused on finding someone to go out with on Friday or Saturday night.
• We say we are trying to do better spiritually, but our true objective is to be better sexually or physically or financially or emotionally so that the person we have our eyes on will notice us and want to be with us.
  
  

Becoming a woman or man with God in our eyes may start off being a lonely journey. The more we look at ourselves; the more we realize that starting that journey alone is a good thing. Most of us have allowed the world to taint us so much that we would not be of much use to anyone in a relationship anyway. Most of us are too depressed or anxious or angry or horny or scared to be a good girlfriend or boyfriend. So, whether we admit it or not, we NEED to spend some time alone so God can work on us. As we allow God’s plan to take root in our lives, people will come into our lives that will help us get to the next level. That person may or may not become a romantic partner. But they most certainly can become a friend and an ally on the path to our spiritual maturation.

So in closing; becoming a woman or man with God in our eyes is not a journey that many of us are willing to take. But I encourage all of us to take that first step toward God with the expectation that God will take two steps toward us. Keep your eyes on HIM and not on Mr. or Miss Look-S-Good. You probably “ain’t” ready for all that anyway! My prayer is that with each passing day, all of us will become more like a person with God in our eyes.